Pretty much all of the guy friends I have, shake their heads and say I am making a terrible mistake by continuing to sleep with him. The proverbial "why buy the cow when you can get the milk free".

I believe that the "you're a big girl" statements are so that I can never turn around and say "you used me" because, afterall, he said I could make up my own mind. It relieves him of feeling guilty because it's my choice. Which is true. to a degree.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing