Haven't had much time to get on lately, but here is the latest.
Starting last Friday she asked me to start sleeping in bed, but with no "grabbing", let me tell you that is hard, but I do sneak a hand somewhere on her and just let it lay . I now get hugs from her every night prior to her going to bed, and sneak in a kiss every other night or so on her cheek. Still no ILY's or anything, just slow and steady.
I did tell her she had to come straight home after work since I had to "leave" for an appointment, which is a lie. I have a babysitter for the night and two tickets to Justin Timberlake for this evening. If that does not get her excited I give up, lol.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
You better be kidding. No giving up at this point!!! well done. Keep up the good work and stay positive. Don't get disappointed if she does not get excited, I am sure she will.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Yes I was kidding about giving up if this doesn't excite her. Might not help "us", but she is going to go thru the roof when she fines out, she watches any time he is on TV. That alone will make me smile watching her enjoy herself tonight.
Better get a damned real kiss tonight, lol.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I am slowly trying to catch up on everyone else's threads, I am so behind on what is going one with everyone. The last time I started reading any, it was your fault mk that I had to run out and get Jimboys' for a late night snack.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
All of our thoughts are definitely with you and yours and your name pops up a a source of reference and inspiration. If you want your WAS to come home, stay vigilant like 789!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I might be vigilant, but I can guarantee that it is/was not easy at all.
It took a long time to just get to the point where I was not letting what she was saying or doing affect me. After all this time I think that is what helped me get through it and survive this long. In the beginning anything she said or did would drive me crazy. When I finally got to the point of just ignoring it all and living my own life did I realize nothing I said would change anything. In talking the little we have over the last couple of weeks I have come to understand what Michele means in her books. You have to let them find their own way, anything you do to alter or change the WAS's mind will just screw it up more, or at the very least make it that much longer for them to figure it out. Just doing the 180's and let everything else take care of itself, one of two things will happen, you become a better person for yourself and/or a better person to be with in marriage to your spouse.
I am by no means finished with DB'ing or having gotten my marriage back, but I do think I/we are on the right track now.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
789 - that is so great that everything is finally heading in the right direction for you. You give me hope for my situation. I must say though I have no idea how you went for 5 months like you did. I am struggling with my 6 weeks right now.
Keep it up and keep us posted. YEAH!!!! And have fun tonight.
