I have to give a BIG SECOND to the angry stage. My H was deadset on D, he couldn't see past the anger he had let build up for literally years. Everything was my fault and at one point he said he could forgive certain things, but just couldn't forget. Patience is huge. I finally asked him one day what made him change his mind and decide to stay and he simply said "because I love you" and I had continually heard the I love you as a person and the mother of my children, but that's it. He had to get past the anger before he could think straight. The fact that he was willing to D and do that to our boys was mind-boggling to me -- he had to get back into a somewhat normal frame of mind to begin healing and accepting that we could get past our issues and work on making our M better than it had been.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
