Hi again Karen,
glad to see that you took my posts in the spirit they were intended \:\)

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What I am gearing up for is to just ask H point blank (1) You haven't initiated sex for a year, ...


Good for you! I personally think that honest communication is always preferable to silent, hidden agendas ;\)
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THEN I can figure out how to proceed so that I can be happy and moving forward in my life.


What are you looking at, in the realms of "moving forward"?
I ask this, because sometimes, seems like our plans for future agendas, sideline or blur responses from our spouse. ie: we "hear what we want to hear" in order to further our own agenda, rather than what they tell us... or, sometimes, what we need to hear "between the lines" of what they are telling us.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle