Madonna/Whore Part 8 (aka Attachment Therory)

[Heywyre]

Lou - thanks for the encouragement

I know I have a lot to lose if I leave this R - IMHO more than what I have to gain, so I am staying put for the time being, regardless of the fact there have been other "things" going on that I am NOT pleased about (more of the same old crap basically)

But, I have decided to give it a little while longer to see what this new therapist has up her sleeve. H seems open to the idea that a woman therapist might be able to help him more than the males have (he has always been more respectful and accepting of a woman's point of view/opinion that a man's and thinks women should have more positions of power so perhaps this will be beneficial)

Had my brother not come to stay with us, I would have been separated by now as there were a LOT of things that had just happened (in addition to what I have previously posted) but my circumstances changed instantly when my brother ended up in hospital and perhaps it was "someone's" way of saying "hold on here, you aren't finished with this R yet"

As much as our R is still very much strained and I am having difficulties with a lot of what is still going on (which I don't want to get into right now) I know I am in this for the longhaul for the time being. However, for some reason, I have been able to detach myself and, for the most part, look at it from a different prospective, which has helped tremendously

The new therapist has spoke with the old one, and she has contacted me several times already. One of the things she has assured me of is that she will be addressing the issue of honesty right from the get-go (something the others did not do clearly enough, IMO) and including me in some of the sessions down the road to ensure that honesty is being upheld.