Everything you said makes sense, H, and for what it is worth I htink you are doing an excellent job in a VERY DIFFICULT situation. (We all are, really.)

Originally Posted By: Heimlich
Understanding and accepting how my actions got my W to where she is now (she shares in that as well) DOES blow.


I get it, BUT enlightenment doesn't blow. It's a gift. It's a second chance. I know what you mean, but I think you should be grateful, and humbled, and appreciative that you have been able to understand and accept so much, because now, and only now, will you be able to live the rest of your life they way you want to, and the way you should, and you will become the person you want to be and were meant to be - for yourself, for your daughters and for others (which may or may not include your W).

Keep up the good work BD! You too WAW!!

Nomo \:\)

M 39
W 39
M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs
S7 D4
Bomb 5-8-05
W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22
DB 4-10
S 6-11
No more C
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