I am in the same situation. It is hard. I have no idea what to do. My husband is "torn between two women". My husband is not back home but I know to get us back to that point I have to let her go. I sometimes think I am holding onto her more than he is.

M 32 H 39
SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4
E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06
On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again.
On 08/11/07 Walked out again.

People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"