Oh yeah - the "bigger issues" are that the reason we don't have sex is because he sidesteps it, doesn't initiate, doesn't care about it, won't discuss it etc.... The bigger issue is the "why" of that.
Also, I am not being deceitful by not initiating. I have said "I don't think it would be a good idea" several times in response to his "if it happens it happens". I don't know how he think it might "happen" if he doesn't do something. If he initiated we would have sex. If he showed an interest I might say - lets just go down on each other this time and discuss appropriate bc for next time. Your post inticates what would be the "normal" case for many women post childbirth. Not me. Not ever. I was ready at about 4-6 weeks post partum. Got home from the gyn and.........................................Nothing. Not even a "Hey hon, did your doc give you the go ahead?".
