I guess I was more asking about where do you draw the line not helping with the D process and being an irritating roadblock? I see lots of advice that if the WAS wants to get out, let them do the work, but I fear that if I am too uncooperative than it just reaffirms that I'm a difficult to deal with and let's move on.
I'm sure that she will file eventually, if not next week, next month, again, it probably depends on how much I help. My question, more to the point, is when do you suggest an alternate path such as counseling, if ever? Do I wait until she suggests it? She might feel like she has failed to stick with her decision if she initiates, but might be waiting for me to suggest it, or maybe not yet and me suggesting it will only stir th pot.
