He still is the martyr. I forgave him the A and we moved on. In the meantime he has said the odd thing here and there which makes me feel like thinks he was entitled to act out that way. He still thinks it was all my fault and none of his fault. Or maybe 50/50 between me and OW.
There is some sort of link between the martyrdom and the entitlement. It's like my H sat back and did nothing about our sex life til he felt entitled to have the A. The "cure" is for him to come forward with himself, just as the "cure" for me is to combat depression and come forward. These things are hard to do when you're clueless...the tendency is to blame the other person.
