Breton,
I'm right there with you on the OW thing with the IL's. My IL's have taken her right in as if she is just naturally supposed to be there. As if what their son is doing with her, living with her while still married to me, is completely normal and OK in their eye. MIL has gone out to lunch with just her and OW and OW ate Easter dinner at their house.

I really don't know that I expected anything different, but for them to just act as if 15 years with their son meant so little that I could be shoved out so quickly hurts. THey are nice to me and have told me if I need absolutely anything that I can call them anytime and I think they sincerely mean it, but I won't. Not after how they've taken OW in to their home and are treating her the same as they treated me when what she's doing wtih their son is so obviously wrong. I just won't.

BFM

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
David Burns, Intimate Connections