Wow you are 93? You've really pulled yourself a young buck there...sorry, I like to find humor where I can. Unless you really are 93.
Anyhoo, welcome to the club. Are you a reader? I wasn't until my married life passed before my eyes and I heard a pop. The pop was my head emerging from my a$$.
I'll probably never get to sit through a live session or even a phone consult with DB, must have been eye opening; funds just aren't there. I'd be worth every penny but the kids have to eat.
I'm sure you know the changes start with you. As with any relationship you both are responsible for your 100%. You can't change him but you can change the way he looks at you; by changing you.
May I assume you've read the DB book, if not do? I'd also like to suggest two others: How to heal a painful relationship and if necessary part as friends and The 5 Love Languages (LL).
The first of the two I read before I knew of DBing; it set me firmly on the path. The second taught me about my LL then how to discover my W's. My W and I are making progress toward healing and fixing and these books had a lot to do with that from my perspective.
I'll tell you the hardest part of all this DBing is patience. My W was a near WAW; so it's going to take her time to find her way back to me, but she's trying (and I know it). Your case will be similar. I've said this before and I'll say it again, "this is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and I pray it will be the most rewarding".
Good luck DBing; keep us posted.
Me36 W34 M13 K B10 B12 Bomb 06/07 Near WAW Me EA over W EA/PA over, contact with OM ended 08/07 W had to decide OM or Me; Still at home
