While I do understand why you are approaching this as the Final Answer from W, I don't agree that it has to be that way. There is a big difference between seeing our spouses move on to a happy life without us, and seeing them wallow in the depression and craziness of MLC. Everything you write tells me that the aliens still have her - and as long as that's the case, I think there is still a chance. I hope for both of your sakes that she manages to pull herself out of this nosedive.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!