Lael, I feel are H's are telling us what's wrong, as their confusion continues they draw us picture that illustrates their needs, the only trouble is until they are ready to look at the picture there's no helping them out. I think if I asked my H to draw a picture illustrating his life as it is now, he would draw it in black and white, and to me it would illustrate a pretty miserable life, but he would see it as a vibrant, bright, picture.
