I am really disappointed in the downturn of this thread today. This was not what I expected at all.
Corri approached cac to try to "help" him explore his feelings about the loss of his anticipated flying career, he agreed to go for it, and started talking. Talking about his feelings is very hard for him as you know, if you've been around here for any length of time. We've got a self-professed dismissive-avoidant who retreats to his bat cave at the first sign of conflict.
And what happens? After he tries to communicate his thoughts and feelings, he's called an azzhole, he's told he's throwing a big pity party, he's accused of blaming other people for his own unhappiness, he is given a bunch of advice that he not only did not ask for, but which is not relevant to the topic at hand. Not a wise move with someone who avoids talking in the first place.
What was all that supposed to accomplish? Why does anyone think that provoking someone is productive?
Everyone was so busy trying to fix the perceived problem of getting cac back into flying (which isn't even the real problem), that they didn't actually hear what he was saying, even though he kept saying it. *shakes head*
Fearless -- I agree with your last posts, for the most part. And no worries, Lou.
