Creating happiness

[ReDesigner]

Nic,
I'm sure the shock and the sting of this news is going to be lessened when you recount to yourself all the reasons why you should never accept the abuse of infidelity. Whenever I remember the man my H had been, I feel grief. When I remember all the completely disgusting, unremorseful behaviours, then it underlines why this could not continue. Remind yourself to balance your feelings that you deserve the best. He is not giving you his best and is incapable of seeing that.
Remember that less than 1 in a hundred couples who begin with infidelity last. Their relationship sprang up from deceit to exist. (Even though I got that figure from Dr. Phil, it's still worth noting!) Honesty and truth are big killers of those relationships. Stay true to your own values. It gives a far greater strength than reacting emotionally, which is temporary and ultimately is energy-draining. You are a fine and decent person worthy of respect. I have no doubt that when you are ready, both love and respect will find you. My thoughts are with you.
Take care, TS