I try not to focus on her much. She is spinning out of her mind. She does not know what she wants (i.e., divorce versus reconcilliation) so we are all in a state of limbo. I think the unknown is the worst.
Whilst she is in a state of limbo, you are not!!! At least not if you don't let her state of mind dictate your life.
What do you want out of life?
What would you be doing if your W disappeared off the face of the earth tomorrow?......DO THAT!
OK, there are some limitations to what you can do, but I bet much less than you think.
In my sitch, the only thing that I am limited by right now is taking a job out of the city I currently live in and dating other women. Both of these are actually self imposed. Other than that, I can pursue all of my dreams. Actually much better now than before the bomb since I don't let her control me the way she used to!
Also, The Unknown is not the worst. Think about it, you live in the greatest, richest country there ever was at the peak of it's power and glory. You live with unfettered access to your kids... Need I go on? You (and I) have it better than we deserve in MANY, MANY ways. We just need to count our blessings more often and focus less on the negative!
Cliffy often advises to write a list of the things you have to be thankful for. Try it, I bet it will make you feel better!
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Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
