SDFGirl, I'm not sure how much your H's failure to connect with you physically is his unwillingness to try or he doesn't know what to do, and needs guidance. Is he able to connect with you in nonsexual ways? How is your platonic R? CL
CL:
This is not about lovemaking, it's about the physical interaction outside of lovemaking. It's like I'm not kissed, hugged, or touched UNLESS he's initiating sex.
We women just don't work like that. Touch and verbal affirmations are my primary love languages, so it's like I'm just a piece of @ss the way I feel. My love tank is on empty.
I was actually thinking about the ways H *does* show me love, and it's almost exclusively acts of service and quality time. Not what I've asked for...but effort anyway. I think I'm going to have to thank him for those things.
Anyway, the sex is good, no complaints there. It's just if I don't feel emotionally connected, I want to part of it. My body shuts down and I kind of feel like punching him.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
