Karen, I kind of got lost in all the "gay" talk that was going on. Does you H not respond to any flirtation from you at all?....or, is it that you have not given any signals to "come get me big boy"? Honey, if you've got the desire.....just go for it. Don't think of it as a "pity screw" and besides, if he should reject you....that will tell you there is a very serious problem and it will give you an open door to approach him and say, "Ok, we need to talk about you seeing a C".
Take it from one who doesn't have the desire to flirt or have sex with her H. I know it must be scary to think he may give some flimsy excuse not to ML to you, but I think if you got the HD......go for it and see what happens. This waiting game is "death" to the M. At least, it may get something moving....either him...or going to a C.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
