Perhaps Mrs. Cac will back you up into looking into this sports pilot thing. First step, kwis? If that is feasible... its not.
perhaps you don't understand just how expensive a pursuit this is. One would have to be extremely wealthy for such a selfish indulgance to not be taking away from the family. anyway, like I said before, that consolation prize wouldn't change anything.
Ah.... ah... ah.... Bwllsheeeetttttt!!!!!
Scuze me, I sneezed.
What the fck ever, Cac. THIS is the sticking point.
What an azzhole you are being to your entire family with this attitude.... sorry.
Corri
Ouch. I cringed when I read that last statement. I don't think he's being an azzhole at all! I thought we were supposed be be HELPING him, not attacking!
There are a couple of different things being discussed here. One, is the fact that cac has suffered a huge loss and perhaps has not grieved it so he can move on. He stated to me not too long ago that he would "never get over it." I believe that this is the reason that his world is negatively colored now.
The second topic, whether or not cac could or should pursue flying for which he is medically qualified, is a whole other animal. It will not take the place of the original loss. It could be a potential source of fulfillment in his mid-life and later years, but not if he never gets over the original loss. It will just be a consolation prize. So to even discuss having him fly again is just skirting the problem, IMO. That's putting the cart before the horse.
Now I've gone back and seen cac's latest reply:
hey, you know what's different during this year's re-hashing vs. last years? my wife is here now! lets ask her!!
Hey honey, tell Corri and the gang that I can have a few thousand bucks/year to go play airplanes. She says it'll solve all my problems!!! I know, J will just have to join the army and go to state-school, but it was good enough for his old man, right??
I was not thrilled back in '89-'90 when cac's father was trying to figure out a way for him to fly without the military. It would have cost a lot of $$ and I didn't think it was a risk worth taking. cac knew I felt this way and he agreed. Whether or not he was just placating, I'll never know unless he tells me that. But the situation at the time was that cac had this scary medical condition we didn't know much about, he had been laid off from his job 4 months after his diagnosis, we were living on my not great salary in my grandparents' house where we were both miserable. That was not the future I saw for us. Maybe I was just afraid. I wanted the white picket fence with 2 kids and a dog. I wanted security, not the unknown.
Today, no, we don't have a few thousand dollars to pay for cac to pursue flying. It doesn't mean that we never would, but that we don't have it this year. I'm still a SAHM and S4 is in private preschool. I do plan to go back to work in a couple of years and would be happy to discuss it and try to figure out a way for him to do it, if he wanted to.
