Thanks for the input. I know Saffie is asleep so I will hear from her later. I know Yoyo and Tal are softies that is why I asked for your opinion also Sara. You are my right to the point woman. I like most of your changes but am a little nervous at this time for the one statement: "This is important. Do not underestimate my seriousness in saying this: I will not simply continue to live in an unhappy marriage." .
I think that will be great if this letter does not change our sitch. I do like the other things you added Sara. (you gave the letter a little more balls). Thanks My W took mine away long ago A side from being intimate we are doing really well. Part of the problem that I need to work on is my mis trust. Not that it is not justified. It's just that (As I always say) need to deal with facts. For instance she was talking on the phone to her friend about her "girls night out" What they we talking about is possible a pot luck at another friends house. So it's not like they are going out bar hopping. I will be honest. I am scared. I am planning on sending this letter next Tuesday. I go back to work on Monday. Family wise things are good. But I don't really have a companion and I am afraid of losing what little attention I get now. But I guess I need to do this. As Theo and Mark would say I either need to sh$t or get off the pot. I know now more than ever Yoyo what you meant by being afraid about being alone.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Feeling left out - you have all these women rushing to help you when you're suffering with a cold. Can I have some?
I think the comments about the W's not being mind readers is true. I have told mine that I will tell her what I am thinking (almost always), I will compliment her and tell her I love her.
Here's a Brit phrase from my part of the world to keep you going;
Ya gota remember these women are tuff cookies after what their husbands put them through. I don't think I could have made it these past 5 months without them.
Can't write too much now. I am trying to stay away from the computer when the W is home. She has not said anything but I do think it bothers her.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
It's fine with me if you leave that out. I just thought that if she did nothing in reaction, and you said, "OK, Goodbye. I'm done." She would say, "Oh, I didn't realize you were so serious about it. I thought you were just saying it." So I was trying to call attention to that part.
And thanks for saying I have balls. Everyone walks all over me at home. Not even the dogs listen to me. It's nice to have some people who think I mean what I say.
Understand about the computer issue. I try to limit mine to when she is out at work. Likewise, the warmth and love of these women has kept me sane over then past 5 months (and often raised my spirits).
