Thanks Sara. The only advice I got from MIL is that give her time. She says the W is her father's daughter. That side of family is very stubborn and proud, and can be pretty bitter at times. At times I do feel that as much as she loves me, she may not be able to let go 6 years of her resentment... Perhaps time will heal... According to her her IC has given her information about Retrouvaille and she has read up about it. So I'm not exactly sure what her understanding of it is.
It may seem like I'm bending over backwards to accommodate her. But the thing is I know my W well enough to know that she is an extremely genuine and generous person. She is always thinking of everyone else except her. She would never take advantage of anyone, including me for self gain. So if she ask for something, it would be something she really thinks she truly needs. Heck, until now it has been a huge problem in our M. She would do things I want to do even though she doesn't want to and then that became resentment. I begged her to stop doing that. She has finally learned to truly speak what's on her mind.
I suppose only thing I can do is keep giving her space and time and hope that the small steps we are making in getting closer to each other continues. Hopefully that'll help later on when she thinks about us.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
