Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 5

[Heimlich]

OT,

I'm actually more scared of emotional involvement than physical involvement. Whether he's at the house or not is irrelevant (they work together, so opportunity to see each other is ample if she wants it), she spent significant amounts of time on the phone with him recently, that's whats got my panties in a bunch. Scared doesn't encompass it. Borderline terrified does (not living my life in a huddled, cringing blob on the floor though). It stinks because were she not speaking to him, I've a good feeling we'd be able to get closer and I wouldn't have made all those damn mistakes the last few weeks.

Wasn't snooping, was just getting my stuff. Plus, she's too smart to leave a pack of condoms somewhere were I to decide to look through a drawer or something.

If the A is in full gear, and it may be, I'd just like to know the truth so I could deal with what is. If she was/is seeing him, knowing what I know about my role in making her feel as she does, I'm pretty sure I'd be OK (I understand why she talked to him over the summer, until June, I was suffering cranial-rectal inversion). However, if she is seeing him, I really don't see a chance for us. Regardless, I just do my best not to think about it, one way or the other, and just interact with her like I want to. As you've said, she's asked for space and I'm doing my best to give it to her.

She did say, and I've a feeling how you will regard this statement, that "I've got nothing to hide. I just thought we had agreed that you would call before going to the house." She said that she was worried that someone had gotten inside, and with the two girls and herself, was a little scared.

We were honest with each other for a long time, it's reflex to want to believe what she's saying.

Anyway.

BD