we love lissie

[missmyfriend]

I, for one, am going to put all of you "up on a pedestal". ALL OF YOU!!!!

We all have screwed up in our lives and we will screw up again. The one thing we all have in common is that we were not going to go quietly into the cold, dark night. We are standing for our marriages!! Do you know how freaking rare that is. In days of old, everyone would be on our side and say "of course, you assume responsibility and take care of your children first". Now we all hear, people fall out of love, people change, and all the other crap excuses. We are ridiculed for standing and treated like lepers. I have been told over and over again that I need a life regardless of how it makes my children feel. WHAT??? That is totally screwed up thought processes. So much for what the world thinks is the right thing to do. The world was the influential reason our spouses tripped into some psychedelic new life without family and responsibility.

Do I really put anyone up on a pedestal? No. I will say some are quite impressive and have helped me so much.

This is a place where we can be magnificent. We can be bold, we can be perfect or we can open up our hearts and be real. Being real is what is magnificent, i.e. admitting when we make mistakes and willing to change in order to be the people we are supposed to be.

Lis, you are my friend, my little sis and I hope that when you have had a chance to gather your thoughts and Javier can give you some peace you can come back, post and share your love with us(javier, dude, if you can read this "WAKE UP" man and beg, plead, crawl back on cut glass and get Lis back. You will never be happy without her. You need to grow up, become a man and admit you have not been acting like a man. We will forgive you for what you have done if you do right by Lis -- God loves you anyway, even if you don't). Please do not stay away from her permanently. And, I respectfully disagree with another poster here. You do not owe us anything. You have already done much but we would be much better if you can come back. But take the time you need.

We do love you Lis and that has been a common thing I have read in every post in this thread. Everyone does love you. And, everyone here, I love you guys too. And not in the biblical sense