That's a good point about the testing Dom, thank you. I guess I know why she does what she does but it really does help to have it acknowledged by a third party. I wonder if it counts as a valid test if I still have those clingy type feelings when she says those things but I don't act on them? Is that real change or am I just lying to myself by stuffing the feelings down? I don't know yet. I'd like to think that what I'm doing is allowing us to get back to a place where she doesn't feel she has to say those things and if she does every once in a while, I can handle those because I see how infrequent they are.
I've been kind of down for the past week or so which I'm logically looking at as a good sign. I've heard that detachment is usually preceeded by a drop in PMA and I think that's what's been going on. Anyway, that's why the whinning in my previous post. I know this isn't easy and I know that it really shouldn't be, anything worth having is worth working for. I was just venting some of my frustration at the time. I appreciate the honest look.
