There and Back, #6

[SallyM]

thanks, ladies.

its funny, H just called to say hi to the kids. he's at the airport getting ready to head home and he sounded soooo sad. he didn't say anything, just sounded close to a complete breakdown/tears/etc. And the only thing going thru my head was get your sh*t together, for god's sake. seriously, I listen to my kids whine about missing him and such, I am there for them, I am sympathetic to them. I'm starting to get sick and tired of him being sad/upset/breaking down. is that wrong? lol.

and really, the more I think about it, its not that I'm tired of him being sad/upset/breaking down, its more that I'm frustrated that he brought it on himself, and is doing nothing at all to change the situation. at least nothing I can see. no introspection, no therapy any more, nothing.

mk, its like christopher, he never did grow up, that I can see. he did exactly with sherry what he would have done with lorelai when she got pg...he married her. didn't matter if they were suited for each other or not, doesn't sound like he did things to help make them more suitable for each other. the only thing he did differently was have contact with his child. and yeah, sherry was controlling, but she always was, she's a type a, and christopher probably chose her because of this, because he could coast along a bit. and sherry was never the OW, btw. she wasn't. if anything, lorelai was. which is more like what I see happening...no thinking involved, just lots of bad judgement and a naive belief in what the unfaithful person is selling.

wow, listen to me spout on and on. lol.

neph, my friend's husband has a theory. it takes 6 months for a man to finally get the reality of whatever situation he has put himself in. and it takes 6 months for a woman to realize she doesn't need to put up with whatever crappy situation she is in and be ready to move on. interesting that H and I are at the 6 month mark, isn't it? because boy does friend's H's theory seem to be holding water.