So, all of you in similar situations, how do you manage going forward? The DBing seems to be working in the sense that we get along, don't argue, don't talk about the R, and aside from an occasional question about my status of getting a L there is very little talk about the D. She reminds me that we are still headed on that track, but not with the sense of urgency and pressure that was there four months ago. (again, I realize that I could be completely ignoring the "I want a divorce" clues)
Haven't talked about maybe going to an counselor, or spending more time together, or even suggesting tha we delay filing, should I? When is a good time for any of that. I am enjoying that we get along and want to build on friendly memories. I don't want to take a giant step backwards and get the D machine fired up if it isn't necessary, but at the same time, I don't want to move forward with filing as if I am OK with all of this.
Should I move forward with filing, or should I continue to have "trouble" finding a good L and buy more time. At what point can I suggest that we might go to a MC instead of a L?
I don't want to dig out any of the hole I have spent so much time filling in.
