All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Hi Cat,

Thanks for replying, it's great to talk at least I don't feel like i'm burdening my friends and family and boring them...

I had the opportunity over the weekend to have a good read of other posts and decided to purchase a book called 'the five love languages'. I think it may help me to understand my H's wants a bit better and of course my own. I know I need words of affirmation and physical touch and I think H shows his love through Actions. I just need to understand how to put into practice what he needs to feel loved and teach him what I need, although i have told him, he just is unable to show me the way I need to be shown.

H has agreed (albeit I think relunctantly) to go out with me & friends in a couple of weeks, so i guess thats a postive.

Talking of positive i found out from H's friend that H is still in teh house because he found it was going to be too expensive to rent another place. My question is the same again: - staying in the house until he can save enough to move out or staying in the house, plodding on or deciding to stay and work at M. I don't really see much work on the M, but maybe I just needto 'read' his actions and continue with positive affirmations. I really thanked him for the kids breakfast this morning.

I hear what your saying about the hugs, but i thought maybe it would make him/us feel better?

We watched a film on tv together last night and it felt comfortable.

Thanks for the advice on the R talk, i just wanted reassuring that I was doing the right thing in not bringing the subject up.

just taking it one day at a time for now.

((( cat)))

xD