Thoughts on phone calls

[Dom R]

I think I handled it well although it really does bother me that she throws stuff like that out like I don't have feelings.

she's not treating you like you dont have feelings. She's TESTING YOU, to try to gauge what your feelings are.

I think that different women might be testing for different things.
Yours might have been testing for signs of "non-clingy".
if so, then what you are doing, HAS registered with her. You just need a third person's perspective to interpret.



Or.. you could just have faith, and patience, and keep doing what you are doing.

If you "expect" a payoff from her... it will dampen your positive attitude. It seems like doing this stuff, always takes longer to keep at to REALLY "work", than is motivated by just a selfish "I want to see a response" drive.

Which, in some ways, is perfectly justified behaviour by the other side. They want to see if what you are doing is a permenant change, rather than just a "I'mk going to do this just until we patch things up, and if we dont, then I'll stop".

if you stop what you are doing because you dont see an emotional "payback"... then you havent really changed, eh?