Lael, their logic just illustrated that they are so mixed up, how could a dad think that his kids don't love him, I really think our spouses must have been offered such mixed messages throughout life about the true meaning of love.
My MIL tells our lads she loves them, they read the words but they are sent along side anger and judgement, luckily they realise that it doesn't add up, they realise that she is sending very mixed messages. It's like abuse, she has even said she is witholding love from them until the respect her.
Both sons said "OK, whatever, she is a fruitloop, dad has too many of her genes, the whole family are loons"
If she is doing this to her grandkids, then I presume she did the same to her son, no wonder H is confused, maybe he only experienced this kind of love, conditional love, I don't know I wasn't around but I've heard & seen enough to take a wild guess.
What I don't understand is, why he chooses to do the same thing, I think he will be horrified if he realises what he has done.
