What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

I just had my counseling appointment...good timing.

I told her the situation and she honestly felt that if I don't put up some boundaries that I will stick with that this will continue to be a disaster. That exh will stroll in and out of my life, do whatever he pleases, be a parent when he wants and the rest be a spoiled frat boy.

We talked about my fears and why I am not able to stick with my boundaries. Came to the conclusion that I get scared that I will be alone and that he won't choose me so I feel that 80% of him is better than none and I back down. She said I have put him in the most powerful place and that I am leaving it all up to him to make the decision.

Even if he came back and said he was sorry and would do better I cannot believe him anymore...how many times has he said he wouldn't contact OW? Many. My trust for him has been blown and he should be standing on his head trying to rebuild. But he's not.....still cake eating.

Thanks again for letting me vent....I do check here all the time for your advice and support.