Is it time to cut him off?

[Dom R]

urk. you wrote a lot, and I think that, long though my post was, I still left a few important things addressed :-/

first off: Good Job on calling him on his "i dont have any choice" garbage, about tearing up your family.
It makes no sense to contradict him in any way about his feelings... but it's important not to just silently let bogus justifications for splitting up, go by. If you stay silent, that means that you 'agree'.

lastly...

I am angry that he is basically leaving me no choice but to go to Plan B.

ok, now you're trying to use the "no choice" cop-out.

Gimme a break, girl! :P

My wife moved out, she spoke to me maybe twice a week, for 5 minutes total per week, when we exchanged the children. for 2 months..
Did I "have a choice" about going to plan B or not? Yes, i had a choice. and I still chose not to.

So, quit your whining about "no choice"

Ironically, though, "plan B" might actually work well for you in your situation. I'm not saying that there's no way it would work. I'm just saying that you DO have a "choice" in the matter.
What you DONT have a choice about, is how long you would have to STICK to plan B, or whether it would ultimately be successful, or what kind of side effects it might have.