SDFGirl, I'm not sure how much your H's failure to connect with you physically is his unwillingness to try or he doesn't know what to do, and needs guidance. Is he able to connect with you in nonsexual ways? How is your platonic R?
Is the issue a lack of foreplay? He might benefit from sexual instruction DVD's. Would he be willing to look into it?
My W has the same complaint about me that you describe. I went and bought some sexual instruction DVD's that my therapist recommended. Our sexual R has been dormant due to distance in the R, but now that connection is increasing I know that I will have to approach sex differently.
I'm at work, and the DVD's are at home, so I'd have to check the name of the company.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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