I like what you said about not rejecting the man your H truly is. You put into words how I have felt for some time. No one understands how I could have fought for my H these last two years, but I was fighting for who he was, and who he could be, not who he is. He even comments that the kids must not have ever loved him if they don't now. They love him now, they just don't love what he is doing now, and have rejected him for it. I guess he thinks because he rewrote history by saying he never loved me since he doesn't now, he thinks the kids rewrote it too.
I wish my XH would want to hear about our adventures too. In the beginning, he wanted to hear everything he was missing out on. I thought it would make him want to take part in life with us. For a while he did, but only the good times, not the mundane. Then he went to just being happy to hear about it, now he doesn't want to hear about it or participate. I don't imagine they have any adventures worth repeating while in MLC.
