At the end of the day it seems like a cop out of an answer, "I'm so wonderful that if he doesn't want me he must be gay."
While I believe you are wonderful, this isn't the point.
The point is that for your H to go a whole year without wanting sex means that something is out of whack WITH HIM. Especially when he says he wants more children. Your abundance of wonderfulness or lack of same are unrelated to his basic lack of interest in sex with you. I know that about my bf, too.
A partner IN a relationship who doesn't want sex for a whole year is coming from a place inside him/herself that is not related to the other person.
Re FOO, the lack of good, healthy mothering from your H's (and my bf's) mom probably plays into this. My bf does not have a good feeling in general about women. His default condition seems to be to see the whole gender as The Enemy until each individual woman proves herself otherwise, and even then that does not generalize to other women.
RJ, I don't remember "laughing" at the suggestion that someone should check out their partner's cell phone records. Sounds like a dumb thing for me to say.
