Piecing to Pieces....A New Arrival

[cat03]

ah jeez whapu, so sorry it's been rotten for you all time (I totally understand how you felt working 3x the amount at a job you hate, saw my H do that for years)

I dare to think that not drinking has brought more positive things that you can think of now, you are taking care of your body and keeping it healthy, that's a biggie for me.

About your W feeling bad about herself, do you compliment her often? we women need to hear it constantly, how nice we look, how pretty we are in such and such outfit. I don't think I've ever look this nice since college, but I dont' feel pretty because my H doesnt' say so, other people do, I get attention elsewhere, but not from my H and that's what really counts for me.

I guess your W wasn't ready for the answer you gave her, I 'm guilty of that, I want honesty but when H doesn't say what "I want to to hear" then I get upset, I have to learn to listen and not condemn or store it for later brooding.

OK, I have to ask, how old is the little one? months old? because there is no earthly reason for a kid to be in the parents bed after 3mths old. If this is still the case, get a pretty neat bed for the kid, offer to go sleep near him/her at the beginning so she/he can get used to the bed and like it. We did with my son, got him a racing car bed since he kept raising hell at night scaping from his crib.

Hope you get to rest some now, you've earned some peace with that hellish time at work, take care friend))))