I appreciate that. I don't know how much grace I have. I have occasionally involved myself in conflicts on this board that haven't bettered me or anyone else. Besides, it doesn't surprise me that someone would wonder. Heck, I have wondered myself. At the end of the day it seems like a cop out of an answer, "I'm so wonderful that if he doesn't want me he must be gay."
Funny, my H's Mom was a bit on the neglectful side also. After her divorce from his Dad when he was young she dated a lot and just kinda left some cold McDonalds on the table for the kids. She was a nurse and worked really hard, a terrible housekeeper. She kept an active, hateful conflict going with the Dad. Eventually H went to live with Dad and StepMom which wasn't a whole lot better. He doesn't completely lack for female role models - has some Aunts he really likes and respects. Overall, the Mother role wasn't so well done in his life. He maintains a cordial, distant, 1 visit/year R with his Mom now. She calls and leaves 5minute poor me voice mails every couple of weeks.
