Wiggled the tooth, so to speak, regarding her speaking to OM. She got quiet, I got scared, apologize wished her a good night and hung up. Enough of that. Please no 2 x 4s on that. Turned a positive interaction into a negative. I've a genius for that.
Maybe it will help you avoid this down the road to remind yourself that it almost certainly does a lot of harm to your cause to bring it up. LOTS OF HARM.
Also, accept that it will take a while for her to drop OM. Right now, she associates you with negatives. She associates him with positives. You have to realize what a herculean task it will be for her to cut him off completely, and to put herself fully back into an R with you, when your M is risky and requires a lot of hard work over a long time, while being with him is so easy, and she trusts him and feels good around him. Make sense?
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
