CVA - Desperate Housewives

[waw1978]

I have nothing really to add here accept agreeing with all of the previous imput. Being the WAS I was the one who left because H took the "refuse to leave" approach and I was not about to get a court order to make things more difficult.

As S77 said, fully discuss all of these actions and consequences with your wife and see where it gets you. In the end the choice will be yours anyway. Either renting a house to get the kids to spend more time with you alone or buying something that will appreciate with time. I think the alone time with the kids is alos key to showing (not punishing) the other spouse in seeing what a real Sep or D will be like...visitation, shuffing kids around. Lots of spouses just don't see the real impact when the kids are staying put and LBS or WAS are just coming and going in & out of the marital home.

Even though your W is the WAS...she is getting some space, but IMO not enough to think things through. Right now your W is having the cake of being in house, having you around most of the time to help with the house & children and just not having a marital relationship with you. Kind of stalled out on that front. No indication of where things are going and if anything is going to change. I think you have a real place where you spend your time with the kids will be the boot in the pants that she needs to make up her mind. Either she is happy working on things with CVA or not. But this will def give her the time and space to figure out what she wants and needs. I don't think she is getting enough of that right now from the sounds of it.

***Alot didn't click for me until I was totally out of my house. Even though my H has a lot of issues I still miss the good times we had. It gives me something to keep the hope alive...even if he is out there dating and not wearing his wedding band or going to IC or MC. *** Maybe this is my wakeup call & 2'4?