At his core my H is a good man. I know this. That's not to say I'll stay with him if he continues to put me last on his list. Right now I choose to stay....
This is good. You are not only aware of your needs, but you've let him know what they are numerous times. And this last time, you've told him you'd set him free if he can't put you in a position of priority. I have to love that. Because your feelings DO matter. Your needs ARE important. And you can't just settle with life. And I really respect that you've chosen to stay right now to give him the chance to make this right, while letting him know, gently, that things have to change.
One thing I've always done was put myself last... behind Xs work, behind the kids, behind whatever else could pull at my X. We deserve better. Our R's will be so much better. This is really great stuff, girl. So keep smilin'. Be gentle to yourself. And don't ever again discount your feelings or needs (I don't think you're in danger of this, just reminding).
