SD, I'm glad you had the talk and put it out there...and that he freaked a bit. I know I wish my W had done that for me years ago. If so, we wouldn't be here right now. Guaranteed. So good for you for really putting it on the line like that.
There has to be some sense in his head that if you stuck with him this far, then you will continue to. But we all know that we stick with our spouses in the hopes of MORE...not more of the same.
As for the EA or whatever you want to call it. I do remember that now that you mentioned it...but whatever. It's where his heart was at that matters. THAT hurts. He hurt you. And if he loves you, he should try and make up for hurting you. As my buddy says, it's not if we screw up because we all do...it is what we do to make up for that. He needs to make up for it. IMHO
Stay strong hun...but stand your ground and demand more out of life.
