WAW1978-Part 4

[waw1978]

Back from the weekend. Sorry no PC at the new place.

My H is such a paradox. Contolling, jealous, lack of social life for himself, lack of attraction and intimacy. Its seems like has has too many issues within himself to do a true 180. Yes, him getting a social like is a great thing. Totally different than the homebody I left. But he is still controlling and does not want to admit that he has any personality issues...I would say not relations with you hot wife would be some type of issue.

Plus now he has added insult to injury but wanting to date others. It just adds to the fact that he just didn't want to be intimate with ME.

So where do I go from here? I really need H to go to IC and resolve his hanups. He refuses to take any responsibility at this point and has said that this is all my "fault". He does not need counseling he is fine, its me who has the problem and is unhappy.

180's for him would be a caring attentive husband who puts his wife above is family (not our daughter). A man who is secure enough let his wife have he own life with out retribution and emotional blackmail. A physically attentive husband, one that actually wants to kiss, touch and have an otherwise normal physical relationship. Stop crusing every dream I have. Be supportive of my endeavors

Those things would certainly help "lure me back"

But outright telling me he doesn't think any of the issues are "his' and that he is not going to IC. Its pointless. Unless we both learn about ourselves and how to modify our behaviors and communicate this marriage is over.

And to be blunt, I am not spending my life with a man does not want to be intimate with me. Once or twice at year at my age is unacceptable.

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