You are right. It is beyond my control what she decides to do whilst I am away.
I just hope that she is sincere in her promises (which she has kept for several months). I know she has lied and deceived me for a long time, but I just feel that she is trying to respect my wishes before our divorce is final (due to the friendly and civil manner I have approached all of her requests with separation, consent orders, divorce etc, she has even told me how impressed she is and how other guys would not have been as decent about it all).
I will just have to block it out whilst I am away.