Sara, unfortunately that's a no on taking her out. She wants to work out her personal issues and it sounds like it will take a while. Unfortunately most people don't have to deal with that aspect of things in their spouse. Usually I think it just comes down to what's between the two people. However for me I have to wait out her personal issues first (which I contributed heavily in getting her to that state), and they are some very major issues. Her IC isn't experienced in dealing with that. I'm hoping she will want to go talk to a specialist sometimes. Of course I can't really do anything to help her except just being there if she needs me since I'm the one really got her to where she is now. The problems were there before we got together but I made them significantly worse.... I can only be patient and pray for her I guess...
I don't expect any sex any time soon after this. Basically for her she "slipped". She has been very adamant about keeping any intimacy with me away because she doesn't want that to influence her thinking process supposedly while working through all these issues. But ultimately it was good for us connecting. I take what I can get I suppose.... I get frustrated because there is so much love, caring, and passion between us. But in the end it seems her resentment is overriding everything. According to her I shattered her heart with what I did and affected her to the core. I'm really hoping and praying that at the end she is strong and forgiving.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
