Just finished my first post. Many similarities to your long term sitch without the A. My rollercoaster goes so far up, and so far down, every day.
Passed you on my way down tonight, and I think your coaster was going up.
Take the money. Transfer needed monies to regular account for bills. Could be wrong but H. may feel more accepted and/or safe if you take his offering of peace.(and security) Perhaps he feels he cant trust himself right now and needs you to feel safe. It cant hurt . Best of luck to you and him.
P.S. You will find me in piecing under Killing Me Softly
Wish my post was more lucid, but I cant even keep track of my own thoughts right now. Left so much out of my post that happened tonight because of blurry screen, that I do not know if it is even clear.