If memory serves me right...Michelle even says that at some point the person who has had the A HAS to apologize for it time and time again for true healing to happen. You don't need to carry that burden too SD. That is something he needs to give you in order to be with you in my opinion. He wronged you. What kind of a world are we living in where people who commit wrongs of this magnitude do not need to at least try and make up for them.
Ah...but he didn't actually have an A. He wrote letters he never sent her, bought her little presents, panted after her like a dog, but she never returned his feelings and never overtly knew his. Nothing physical, not even mutual....
Does it hurt? A lot less than it used to. I do realize that when I begin to believe I need someone other than me, I'm lost.
I *am* tossing around the idea of asking him to cease all non-work-related contact with her, i.e. nothing remotely social...no phone calls, no emails, none of that. But I kind of think that's pointless...because it wouldn't be hard to hide it and say you were doing what I asked.
At his core my H is a good man. I know this. That's not to say I'll stay with him if he continues to put me last on his list. Right now I choose to stay....
Thanks again Scotty!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
