What is reasonable and what is not?

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Thanks C....He keeps texting me and asking what he did wrong. I did break down and tell him he was lousy at hiding his texts tonight because he was drunk.

You are right, he needs to stop. I can't make him. All I can do is keep my distance. I honestly don't think he does anything physical...its more of that ego lift and stroking. Another pattern I noticed is most of these texts happen with OW (now plural) when he is drinking. Never during the week.

I hear you on the overreacting with your W. I always assume that if exh is in a bad mood it has something to do with me and he is unhappy. I have never felt so paranoid before as I do now. I am always analyzing everything....every word