First of all, in your affair, everything is new for both of you, so the chemicals are really flowing. Second, of course he was building an emotional connection to you. But he really is NOT looking for just an emotional connection, he wants you for sex (if he is normal). Think of it this way, everything a man does with a woman is intended to win her desire. So the new man is being lead on by you, so of course he is going to do all the wonderful things for you. But the same is NOT true for you husband, he could do anything for you and you will NOT desire him, so why should he put forth ANY effort with you?
