What is reasonable and what is not?

[cpolk]

SO2,
I suppose the only thing you can do is to go with what you think is right; what you can live with. Hey at least you are divorced; that should make it easier. Right?!

I doubt it.

The line in the sand worked for me. It gave me my sanity back. I got to the point mentally that if my W wasn't able to accept; that I was willing for her to go. The thing is you can't make him stop. He must stop of his own accord.

Anything else might work for a while but it may come back.

You know I feel like an a$$ tonight. I totally misjudged my wifes 'pissed offedness' and distance and shortness as something that had to do with me. Her Grandmother and I knew this, is really struggling healthwise. She's depressed this weekend specifically. Preferres to deal with in on her own. I want to help her deal so much that it clouds my judgement.

In the past I'd have been like whatever you'll pull through. Over the past 4 months (since my return) I've discovered the true scope of my stupidity in my old R. While trying to pull my head out of my a$$ and make this new one work (a challenge) I find that all these new feelings that make it happen are overwhelming.

From a guys perspective and it sounds gay to say, these feelings are what is going to make this new R work. But I must learn to use them for good. Its almost like I'm learning to see or to hear for the first time; I just don't know how to handle it.