I have been eating, sleeping, dreaming, thinking Retrouvaille since we've been on our weekend. One of the many great things about the "program" is that it makes you focus on who you are (which is why so many DBers would get a lot out of it - it kind of forces you to the next level of introspection) Anyway, one of the troubling things I have discovered about myself (and have known it for some time but just haven't wanted to face it) is that I have incredibly low self-esteem in my marriage. In my life outside of my marriage, I don't have a poor self image, but in this marriage, I struggle. As you can imagine it has wreaked havoc on our lives. All of this was pre-A and has definitely contributed to my H's A as my insecurity manifested itself in forms of rejection. (Bear with me as I think while I type - I don't know where I'm going with this). I guess my question is: how does one become secure in a marriage? Perhaps I will address this in IC - may be more appropriate there. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. I'm not talking security in terms of commitment, I'm talking security in terms of being happy with who you are while married to someone else. Does that make sense? Isn't that *really* what galing is all about?
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
